Let’s face it.
Men think differently than women. So that means learning how to attract men is an entirely different ballgame.
And as a woman, that can leave you wondering:
How do some women get their men “hooked” while I struggle to attract them in the first place?
Getting your man hooked is easier than you might think.
The 13 tips you’re about to read may seem simple. Heck, they may even seem like common sense.
But guess what?
And if you follow these tips step-by-step, then I can promise you’ll be ahead of 98% of your competition.
Now have I got your attention? Good. Let’s jump into the 13 secrets for attracting men.
Secret 1: Have a Life of Your Own
Think about it.
If you live your life to the fullest when he’s not there, then you’ll have more good stories to tell him when he’s around.
I used to be too.
But if there’s one thing I’ve learned from this book, it’s that every man values a successful and independent woman.
Not only does it make you more attractive, but it takes the pressure off of him.
Because he can get overwhelmed when he’s the only one you come to for companionship, support, and advice.
Now don’t get me wrong.
Sure, your man wants to be there to support you, but he also wants you to live your own life.
So what am I telling you?
You need your own hobbies and group of friends. You need to show him that you have things going for you.
But don’t just take it from me.
Matthew Hussey, a relationship coach, gives the best dating advice I’ve ever heard. He’s helped me (and thousands of other women) get Mr. Right.
I started following Matthew’s YouTube channel two years ago when I was single. Since then, his advice has helped me meet (and keep) the man of my dreams.
And guess what?
I’m marrying that man in less than 6 weeks. Go figure.
Secret 2: Give Him Man-Time
I’ll be honest with you.
Giving a guy his own space is commonly overlooked when it comes learning how to attract men.
When you’re really into him, you want to spend as much time as you can together.
But you should ask yourself these questions:
Don’t you ever just want to spend time with your friends and family? Aren’t there things you can only share with your sister or your best friend?
He’s the same way.
It’s easy to get busy and forget to spend time with the people we care about. So if you notice he’s been busy lately, bring it up to him and encourage him to see his friends.
Because if you never give him time to do his own thing, it can come across as controlling or clingy – even when you don’t mean for it to.
So tell him to have fun. Be sweet about it and he’ll appreciate you for it.
Besides, it’ll make him want to cut the night short to come back to you.
Related: How to Get the Guy: Learn the Secrets of the Male Mind
Secret 3: Be Good At Something
I won’t sugarcoat it.
We’re all impressed by someone great at what they do.
Man or woman – it’s really attractive.
So people notice when you excel in a particular area. And if other people are noticing, then you can bet he is too.
Whether at work, during a sport, or hobby – having something you’re passionate about makes you desirable.
To put it simply?
He’ll want to know more about it, and he’ll show more interest in you because of it. Plus, it gives him something to brag about you to his friends and family.
You don’t have to flaunt to the world that you’re awesome at this one thing, but it doesn’t hurt to show him your successful side.
Secret 4: Take Your Affection Outside
Want to know what turns him on?
When you show him that you notice him.
But what am I talking about?
Well, for example, a recent study found that 97% of men (which is as close to unanimous as it gets) say they love it when women show their affection in public.
Here’s what it boils down to:
Men want a woman who’s confident enough to make a move. They want you to give them the green light that it’s okay to show PDA in public. It doesn’t mean you have to be all over him at the restaurant, but don’t shy away from being affectionate.
Kiss him, touch him, and get close.
All men need a little encouragement. He wants to know that you’re impressed by him too.
Because let’s face it:
Guys usually won’t communicate directly when they want you to show more interest, but they’ll be happy when you do.
And you know what else?
By showing him that you notice him, he’ll be more likely to notice you too.
Secret 5: Laugh At Yourself
The secret’s out.
Laughing and joking around shows your fun side.
It’s one of the oldest tricks in the book.
Because at the end of the day, your sense of humor serves as a mental matchmaker between you and him. It’s also an essential aspect of intellectual compatibility.
And part of learning how to attract men comes down to this:
You can impress him by letting him impress you.
Funny how that works, isn’t it?
That’s just how the male mind operates. So you should be asking yourself:
Can I make fun of myself for the silly things I’ve done? Can I tease him about something silly he’s done?
That’s not all, though.
Humor makes awkward situations less awkward, and it gives you a common ground to connect on. So laugh at yourself, laugh at him, and laugh together.
Secret 6: Have Confidence & Self-Worth
There is no other way around it.
If there’s just one thing that you can do to impress your man, confidence is it.
But the word confidence is thrown around a lot. So what is it, exactly?
In a nutshell, it’s the unspoken belief of “I can handle it.”
Confidence dictates how you treat yourself and how you respond to how others treat you.
Together, confidence makes up the core of everything I’ve mentioned so far:
- Having a life of your own
- Being good at something
- Being able to laugh at yourself
Now make no mistake.
Confidence and self-worth often take time to build, but it’s well worth it to do so.
Secret 7: Show Your Best Side
Let’s start with a brutal truth, shall we?
Impressing him isn’t about wearing the nicest clothes, makeup, and styling your hair. It’s not about looking good for him.
It’s about looking good for yourself.
So let me ask you:
Have you ever gotten “too comfortable” in a relationship?
I’ve done it. You’ve done it. We’ve all done it.
We get comfortable around him, and that’s when we bust out the sweatpants, stained shirts, and messy buns.
But that’s when I realized…
Taking good care of yourself is just as much for you as it is for him.
You’ll not only look more attractive, but you’ll boost your own confidence. And most importantly, you’ll be showing him the best version of yourself.
Secret 8: Be Flirtatious
You know that amazing feeling of dating someone new – when you’re fun and flirtatious?
Bring that back.
It’s fun, exciting, and mysterious – especially if you’ve been together for a long time.
Because even if you’ve been together for years, he still doesn’t always know what’s on your mind. This isn’t just about learning how to attract men. It’s also about keeping them.
So use flirtation to your advantage and create a little mystery.
Show him that you’re responsive to him. Be the one to initiate intimacy between the two of you. It’s the perfect way to show him you care.
Secret 9: Respect Yourself
Let’s be real for a second.
Men commit to women they respect.
And if you want a man (or anyone else) to respect you – it first starts with respecting yourself.
A woman who respects herself expects it from others. She quietly removes those who aren’t respectful of her from her life.
Having standards that you enforce with your actions. For example, expecting him to commit or making him put effort towards building a relationship with you. These show him that you respect yourself.
There are plenty of people in life who settle for way less than they deserve. Or women who don’t make their standards clear.
You’re different. You respect yourself first. Show him that.
Secret 10: Show Interest in What He Likes
Don’t laugh, but…
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve sat down and watched football with my man.
Do I enjoy it? No.
Do I even understand what’s going on? Also, no.
But I do it anyway.
Why? Because it lets him know that he’s important to me. I show him that with my actions.
He knows that football isn’t really my thing, but he also knows that I don’t mind doing something he enjoys.
So whatever your man is interested in: sports, cars, bikes, movies, etc – show interest in those things. Maybe, for example, you go to a football game with him or make his favorite meal because you know he loves it.
The bottom line is this:
Show him that you value him through your actions.
It makes him feel like you thought of him enough to make the effort. And this alone is a powerful tip on how to attract men.
It’ll strengthen the bond and make him feel closer to you, and it’s a great way to squeeze in some quality time.
Secret 11: Be Spontaneous
Do you know why so many people suck at relationships?
It’s because they forget that relationships require work. And not only that, but they fall into the day-to-day flow of life and same old routine.
Let’s be honest:
Nobody wants a boring relationship. And actually, that’s one of the most common mistakes women make in the bedroom.
So here’s the thing:
When your man sees spontaneity in you, he associates you with excitement rather than the boredom commonly linked to monogamy.
When he thinks of you, he’ll know that you’ll have a good time together.
Why? Because you’ll be up for embracing a variety of new things.
Spontaneity impresses men and shows them that you’re someone they can enjoy the rest of his life with. So this is also a great tip on how to attract a husband.
Surprise him with a date night, spend time together, and try new things.
Secret 12: Show Gratitude
Saying “thank you” goes a long way in any relationship.
A recent study showed that acknowledging small acts of generosity strengthens the bonds with the people we care about.
That’s reason enough to let him know how you appreciate it when he’s done something for you.
Words DO mean something. And if you truly mean it, he’ll feel it.
Secret 13: Take Care of Your Health
Don’t underestimate the power of this tip.
Eat well, get enough sleep, and make sure to exercise. Exercise strengthens your immune system, improves stamina, and enhances concentration.
It’s beneficial for you in so many ways. Plus, it’ll keep him attentive and attracted to you.
People who exercise regularly report feeling more confident, are more successful, and have more sex with their partners.
And you’re more likely to eat healthy once you start following a fitness routine. So it’s a win-win.
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