Let’s face it.
Everyone experiences trauma from being fired
But here’s the thing:
Most people who get fired didn’t get the boot because they stopped showing up. They didn’t come to work late. They didn’t steal anything.
So, what happened?
They just pissed off the wrong person.
It happens to the best of us. You can piss someone off just by telling the truth while everyone else stays silent. Or by having an unpopular opinion.
But yet, so many people are embarrassed about getting fired. It’s time to stop.
I’m not saying you should wear it as a badge of honor. But I’m not saying you should wear it like a mark of shame, either.
Let’s talk about all the good things that happen in your life after getting fired.
1 | You Learn What You Don’t Want
Has this happened to you?
You reflect back on a situation and ask yourself:
Why did I put up with that?
Think about it. Sometimes when you’re in the situation – you realize that it’s not a good fit.
Other times, it takes getting fired to help you realize that you weren’t actually happy.
So here’s the deal:
If you’re being honest with yourself, then you’ll realize that job wasn’t the right fit for you. Sure, there may have been aspects of the job that you liked, but you’re better suited somewhere else.
The bottom line?
You learn more about what you don’t want after you’ve left.
2 | It Isn’t The End of The World
Don’t get me wrong.
Remaining positive after getting fired is hard. There will be good days and there will be bad days.
But here’s what you need to do:
Let it sink in, take a deep breath, and realize you weren’t planning on staying at that job forever, anyway.
Hell, if you could do it all over again – you probably would’ve left sooner. Because why would you stay somewhere that wasn’t the right fit for you?
But that doesn’t mean you won’t feel the trauma from being fired after it immediately happens.
You won’t always wake up with a positive attitude about the situation.
Allow yourself to feel those emotions.
Then start searching for something better.
3 | You’re Given a Fresh Start
I don’t know about you.
But I never realized how easy it was to get caught up in a terrible job until it happened to me.
Think about it.
As long as the paycheck comes in, it’s easy to fall into the trap of not doing anything proactive about your situation.
You know you should be proactively looking for a new job. You should update your resume. You should network.
But you don’t, because you’ve fallen into the trap of being comfortable.
Here’s what it comes down to:
Sometimes you just need to start new.
When you’re fired, you no longer have to worry about the daily stresses or headaches that came with that job.
You’re given the fresh start you needed. So what are you waiting for?
4 | You Start Reflecting
We all get fired for a reason.
It may have been a bad reason, but it’s still a reason. And it can be a tough pill to swallow.
Maybe you pissed off the wrong person, called out too many times, or had an issue with not meeting deadlines.
So the best piece of advice I can give you on how to recover from being fired comes down to this:
Do your part to turn your weaknesses into strengths.
Stop saying you’re bad with people. Or terrible at meeting deadlines. That might’ve been you in the past, but you’re moving forward.
It’s time to change for the better.
5 | The Chance to Diversify
The saying goes:
Never put your eggs in one basket.
But sometimes you have to learn that lesson the hard way. What happens when all your eggs break?
If there’s one thing that the trauma from being fired teaches you, it’s this:
When all your eggs break, then you’ll want to diversify your income streams so that it doesn’t happen again. Experience has taught you a hard lesson.
But you’re not alone:
The reason that most people feel stuck at a crappy job is because they’ve got bills to pay.
But these days, there are plenty of great side hustle ideas to make money from home.
6 | It Lights a Fire Under You
Let’s be honest.
Once you dust yourself off, you become more determined than ever.
Maybe you want to prove your doubters wrong. Maybe you want to show yourself that you can survive. So you decide at your next job that you’re going to give 110%.
You start creating new and better opportunities for yourself. You plan to chase that dream you’ve always had but never acted on.
The few weeks that follow being fired are some of the best for finding a new sense of self.
Steve Jobs said being fired from Apple was one of the greatest things that ever happened to him.
7 | You Appreciate People More
You remember your family and friends, right?
Those relationships that were neglected because you were dealing with work?
After that fateful call to the office, you start valuing the relationships you have in your life.
Not only do you rely on emotional support from your friends and family, but they also might help you network.
After all, jobs come from people; not the internet.
8 | You Grow Professionally
Has it been a long time since you’ve updated your resume? Have you even looked at it since you last got hired?
Here’s what it comes down to:
Growing professionally is crucial for your long-term career. So make it a goal to update your resume at least once a year.
Also, keep a running list of your accomplishments so that in your next interview, you can mention what makes you the best person for the job.
And by the way:
Just because you got fired, doesn’t mean you didn’t achieve anything.
9 | You Focus on The Future
Above all else, the trauma from being fired teaches you to evaluate your life.
Have you been putting off finishing your degree? Was there something you wanted to do but never started?
It’s time to invest in your future. Do something now that you will thank yourself for later.
Think about your dream job. What skills and experience do you need to get there?
10 | You Learn to Survive
Your first reaction after getting the boot is probably:
Oh sh-t, what am I going to do now?
Here’s what you do:
You have to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and hustle yourself into a better situation. You might tighten up your finances or figure out how to cut extra fat from your budget.
You learn how to spot red flags early on at your next job. You focus on building new skills that will land you at your dream job.
Most importantly, you learn to believe in yourself.
11 | You Focus on Your Health
What areas of your life need improving? Do you need to eat better, sleep more, or exercise?
It’s easy to fall into the trap of not taking care of yourself when you’re working.
I lost 20 pounds after getting fired. And the more I think about it now, the more I realize I couldn’t have done that if I still worked there.
Because I wasn’t able to focus on myself. So I took the trauma from being fired and turned it into something positive.
I started with my health.
What about you?
12 | There’s No Success Without Failure
When it comes to being fired, Bloomberg once said:
“I’ve always thought tomorrow was going to be the best day of my life. Even the day I knew I was going to get fired, I had never been fired before and wanted to see what it was like.”
Being “put out” isn’t the same as being put down. Just because your employment ended – it doesn’t mean you failed.
It’s scary to feel like you failed.
You keep reliving the situation over and over again.
You wonder if there’s anything you could’ve done differently.
Once you step back from the situation, you realize you’ve grown a thicker skin.
Because even though it seems final at first – you’ll eventually see that life goes on and better opportunities come your way.
And you’ll look back and say:
I got fired, and it was the best thing that ever happened to me.
Thanks for reading.